If something's not right in your life...
stop trying to change it.
The best place to start is with yourself.
I've worked with dozens of people who are feeling stuck and want things to change in their lives. But there always seems to be something getting in the way. For some it seems to be someone else, either a partner, close family member, child or work colleague. For others, it looks like their job (or lack of it), or something that is going on at work. Others still feel that if only they were different in some way, more skilled, kinder, or harder working, or knew exactly what they wanted, then they would be able to start making changes and moving forward in life.
The obstacles to change can look insurmountable (which is probably why you're still feeling stuck). But I've got some great news for you:
You don't need to change any of the things you think you need to change, in order to have a completely different, fulfilling, experience of life.
The change comes from you - but not with a whole lot of effort. It comes from seeing things differently, having a new understanding of how the world, and your mind, work. Realising that much of what you were told about how life works was wrong.
Change really is much simpler than you think.
Start with You is for people who just KNOW that they want to make changes in their lives.
- Perhaps you're frustrated with your job, struggling with your relationship, or at a crossroads in life, and just can't see the way forward.
- Are there others in your life whom you see in difficulty and would love to support, but you just can't find a way to do that?
- Maybe other people's behaviour or your circumstances seem to keep you stuck and limited and you can't see a way out.
- Perhaps you're a medical professional, like others I've worked with, who is subject to an investigation.
- Do you feel that the circumstances you're stuck with mean you just can't have peace in your life?
All you know for sure is that you are ready to create something new
in your life.
Let me be clear about a few things
These few simple misunderstandings often get in the way of change:
- You do not need to change the outside circumstances or other people to experience greater peace of mind, be happy and thrive.
- It is not selfish to think about what you want and seek it out. It is only when you are energised and thriving that you can fully share your gifts with others. You have to start with you.
- Thinking that others will be worse off if you follow your desires is innaccurate.
- It is never too late to create changes in your life.
I wonder if this sounds like you?
- You know you've got more to offer in life - but self-doubt, fear of what other people think or how they will react, fear of looking stupid, fear of being selfish, guilt, not knowing where to start, perfectionism or other people are getting in your way!
- You feel stuck with a bunch of circumstances which look completely out of your control but are causing you stress and upset.
- Maybe it's been so long since you really focussed on what YOU want, or found a way to get it, that you can't remember what that even feels like.
- Does it seem as if it might be safer just to plod ahead with what you're doing, keeping others happy, not rocking the boat?
- Perhaps you wonder if, in fact, change is just not possible for you.
- You want to get up every morning feeling inspired and energized by the difference you are making in the world.
- You want to feel a sense of FREEDOM!
I created Start With You to inspire you to be fully you and express that.
It's what the world needs!
During this course, I will guide and inspire you to finally take that leap and start creating miracles in your life.
Together we will explore the issues which keep you stuck, and you'll see how you have more leverage than you thought. You'll notice things changing with very little effort.
As you come up against habitual ways of thinking, I will teach you an understanding that will help you to see everything differently.
You will get clarity on what you really want from life, discover what you are really capable of, and learn to take confident action without guilt.
My clients work with me because I inspire them, because I care about them, and because I support them strongly. I can show a completely different way of seeing which frees you to really be YOU in the world. I can see in you what you don't see yourself. This is powerful. I will show you where you are getting in your own way.
I know there is much more for you in life - and I want to make sure you see that too.
What will be exploring in these sessions?
OVERCOME OVERWHELM AND OVERTHINKING
When you learn how experience is created, you will see the world in an entirely new way.
You will likely come up with new ways of dealing with things that have bugged you for years!
ESCAPE FROM THE STRESS OF CONSTANTLY WORRYING ABOUT THE FUTURE AND DWELLING ON THE PAST
How much time do you spend thinking about the past or worrying about the future? Quite a lot if you're like most people! I expect you already know this is counterproductive and can make you feel anxious or guilty. But you've probably not known how to stop. For many women I work with, the difference seen here is utterly life-changing.
LEARN TO LISTEN TO THOSE AROUND YOU IN AN ENTIRELY NEW WAY
You may think you know how to listen well. But I guarantee there's something you're missing if you're having any difficulties relating with family members or colleagues. This new exploration of listening has had people say 'my relationship with my son/daughter/husband has transformed' within one week!
IDENTIFY YOUR STORIES
Did you know that what you think is made up?
Find out how to overcome the stories you are inadvertently telling yourself. These stories are not only untrue but are stopping you from making changes you want and communicating with others effectively. I'll help you see beyond your stories, which makes change easier and surprisingly quick.
HOW PAYING MORE ATTENTION TO YOURSELF CAN BENEFIT THOSE AROUND YOU
Having a better understanding of yourself and feeling secure and happy regardless of the circumstances is the one thing that can have the most dramatic benefits for those around you who are struggling. Your clarity and sureness produces ripples which travel far. I can't emphasise enough what a difference this alone makes.
LISTENING TO INNER GUIDANCE
We all have the inner guidance of wisdom - but typically we have learnt to drown it out with what looks like sensible, intellectual thinking. When your mind quietens down (as it will on this course) you will start to recognise the benefits of living more from your innate wisdom. It then becomes easier and easier to do.
EXPERIENCE THE FREEDOM TO BE YOU!
Life is here for you to live it to the full - and express who you really are. I will be standing with you as you start to do just that! I will be supporting you to take steps that have looked too difficult before and become a leader in your own life. It's exhilarating to live life with a feeling of freedom and excitement.
It's time to start with you.
I'd love to have a conversation with you so you can see if this programme is for you. Drop me a message on the link above, or an email at [email protected]
I started the programme with just as much skepticism as hope. I knew that I had untapped and frustrated creative potential inside, but my ingrained negative and self-defeating thoughts had for years been overwhelming. I remember saying to Lizzie: I don't have a problem, I am the problem. I felt I was an utterly hopeless case and, deep down, I felt ashamed and embarrassed to be considering coaching in order to live. And yet, thankfully, something drew me to engage with the process and have the initial conversation.
After that first chat with Lizzie, I straight away felt a shift. If that's what one chat can do, why would I walk away now?
Since then, Lizzie has sensitively guided me forward to a whole new level of understanding - of myself, of life and of the human condition - that I could not possibly have anticipated. It doesn’t feel transient and fragile, but deep and profound and I find myself looking at possibilities in life that would have been, literally, unthinkable a month ago. I can hardly believe the options that I now see, which fear and negativity had made me blind to.
I feel that this sustainable change is coming naturally from inside me, supported by Lizzie. I have no regrets about embarking on this course and have been astonished at the profound shift I have felt so far. The cost now seems like an irrelevance; all I can see are the benefits.
Clare
Lizzie has been coaching me during a difficult period of change in my job situation and direction, while I embark on applications for further senior leadership (medical director) roles in healthcare.
The type of coaching she provides I would describe as transformative because it has completely transformed the way I think about problems and my ability to handle my thoughts and emotions. I am now much more able to cope with change and deal with other people’s conflicting opinions - however confronting and potentially damaging they may seem. Despite being in the middle of a very challenging episode in my career, even involving an investigation into my work, I am sleeping better and don’t ruminate.
I feel that my decision-making, resilience and general well-being have all improved dramatically. Work and life have become far less stressful for me, and the general day to day pressures of life which previously might have floored me aren't bothering me. I feel relaxed and confident as I approach the next stage of my career, even though there is still much that is unpredictable.
Both colleagues and family members have noticed and commented on my increased resilience and ease in the face of challenging circumstances.
I can’t recommend this confidential coaching highly enough, whether for established leaders - especially those in senior roles - who experience stress, self-doubt or impostor syndrome, or those secretly doubting themselves as they take on a leadership role.
LISA
I recently got the big promotion I've been looking for - just 10 minutes down the road and a £28K payrise! I've met the most amazing man who is much more suited to me. I have made a list of 60 things to do before I'm 60 and am making my way through it with delight. I can honestly say I've never been happier. I feel as if the world is my oyster. This was all kick-started by my being on your programme, so a massive thank you!
HELEN
I found Lizzie a little over two years ago. I was just thinking that I am so darn happy now! This is a 180 degree difference from how I felt two years ago. Not a whole lot has changed in my circumstances or environment, but the change has come from within. Lizzie helped me get there! With her support, I actually felt free to be me, take some little risks which has led to doing some work that I love. Lizzie challenged some of my pointless negative thoughts... I can breathe again! Thank you Lizzie Paish!
PAulA
What Makes This Programme Different?
Each video training module focuses on a particular area where I have seen clients repeatedly get stuck or need support, and the group sessions build on this learning. They are unique and flexible so that we talk about what is most relevant for you.
And then there's my unique approach. There are plenty of coaches out there who will teach you techniques to build your confidence or strategies to get over your self-limiting beliefs, but this is different.
I go behind the stories, beyond all the mindset stuff you already know. It's like going behind the scenes and making fundamental changes to how you see the world - changes that impact EVERYTHING!
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